Deconstructing Shame: A Gestalt Approach

Shame is a powerful experience which lives inside the mind and body of every individual and is especially present those who have experienced trauma. Shame is often at the seat of anger, perfectionism, avoidance of intimacy and somatic suffering.

As we live and work in a world where trauma is becoming increasingly more prevalent and acknowledged, the need to explore the role of shame and trauma becomes more salient. Our culture is driven by fear and lack of connection, resulting in shame becoming further embedded in the individual and collective narrative of human beings.

As practitioners, when our own shame stories are often left unexplored and outside of our own awareness, we become less available in our ability to be in relational contact with our clients. A lack of availability for contact in the therapeutic relationship is problematic in that shame creates an intrinsic sense of being different from ou…