Letting Go to Live Fully: How Releasing What No Longer Serves You Can Open Space for Purpose

Lessons Of 2025: Letting Go To Live In Alignment

2025 asked something very specific of me, not more striving,  not more holding some things together, but something far quieter and far more demanding: to let go. At first, that invitation brushed up against something familiar and uncomfortable. I have long known, both personally and professionally, that persistence is not always synonymous with wisdom, that loyalty can quietly become self-abandonment, and that forcing something to work often costs more than it gives. Still, knowing something and living it are not the same. This year did not teach me something entirely new. It reminded me. It reminded me that sometimes the most honest and self-respecting thing we can do is release what no longer fits the person we are becoming.

The quiet grief of releasing what once felt right

Some of what I released in 2025 included relationships I had invested in, connections that, at one time, felt genuinely right. They were meaningful, supportive, even formative. They shaped me in important ways. And for a long while, I believed that the depth of that investment meant they were meant to last. What I was reminded of is that not all connections are meant to be lifelong. Some people enter our lives to walk with us for a season, to reflect something back to us, to help us grow, to teach us how to love, how to set boundaries, how to listen to ourselves, or how to leave.

Letting go of those relationships did not mean they lacked value. It meant their purpose had been fulfilled. There was grief in acknowledging that, grief for what was real, for what was shared, for the version of myself that existed inside those connections. But there was also a quiet kind of respect that emerged, an honoring of what those relationships gave me, and an acceptance that holding on past their natural ending would require a kind of self-betrayal.

Releasing them was not dramatic. It unfolded gently, with uncertainty and sadness, and with the familiar question many of us carry: Am I giving up too soon? Yet alongside that question came a softer truth, that staying in what had outgrown its shape was costing me more than leaving. I also see how deeply this was tied to attachment and nervous system safety.

In addition to relationships, I also released work projects that I had outgrown. These were initiatives and roles that once inspired me and aligned with my purpose, but over time felt constrictive or misaligned with the growth I was experiencing. Letting go of them was not a sign of failure or lack of commitment; rather, it was a recognition that my skills, interests, and creative energy had evolved. By stepping away from what no longer fit, I created space for new opportunities that felt more aligned with my calling and allowed me to engage in work that is energizing, meaningful, and congruent with who I am becoming in this season of my career.  I felt bold and powerful as I stepped away from what no longer served me. 

 Sometimes we hold on not because something is nourishing, but because it is familiar. Because our bodies learned long ago that connection, even misaligned connection, can feel safer than separation. Letting go, in that sense, was not just a relational decision; it was a somatic one. It was reminding my body that I could survive endings, that I could remain intact without over-functioning, and that safety does not have to come at the cost of authenticity.

Surrender as an act of integrity

I have known for a long time, conceptually, that surrender is not the same as collapse or resignation. Still, this year invited me to embody that knowing more fully. It became the practice of listening to what my body and my values had been communicating long before my mind was willing to hear it: the chronic tightness before certain meetings, the heaviness that arrived when I said yes out of obligation, the way my energy quietly disappeared in rooms where I had to do something other than simply be. Letting go was not a rejection of commitment or effort. It was a refusal to continue to build a life that required ongoing self-abandonment.

Each release created a little more room, more clarity, more creative energy, more space to listen for what I am actually being called toward, not what maintains an old version of me, not what keeps the peace at the expense of my own aliveness, but what feels congruent and honest.  What I do know is that when we stop carrying what isn’t ours to hold, we begin to sense the direction our lives have quietly been leaning all along.

For you: exploring your own relationship with letting go

If you’re reading this as someone who is healing, growing, or simply trying to live more truthfully, I want to offer this gently: letting go does not mean you failed. It does not mean you didn’t try hard enough. It does not mean you are disloyal, weak, or irresponsible. Very often, it means something is right. It can mean your nervous system is wiser than your conditioning, that your values are clarifying, that your inner world is asking for more coherence between who you are and how you live. You might explore this for yourself with a few gentle questions, either in journaling or quiet reflection: What in my life consistently drains me, even when I am “doing everything right”? Where do I feel tight, small, or braced when I imagine continuing as things are? What am I maintaining primarily out of fear rather than alignment? If I trusted my body’s signals, what might they be asking me to loosen my grip on? Who am I becoming that this no longer fits? What could become possible if I had more space? There is no rush to answer these. Often the body responds in sensations before it forms clear language. That, too, is wisdom.

Becoming more yourself

There is a version of growth that looks like accumulation: more skills, more roles, more achievements, more responsibility. And then there is another kind, quieter and often braver, that comes through subtraction: through setting something down, through choosing not to carry what distorts your shape. You are not behind because you released something. You are not broken because your needs changed. You are not failing because a chapter closed. You may simply be becoming more yourself. If 2025 taught me anything, it is that a life built in alignment often begins not with dramatic reinvention, but with the steady courage to let go.

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With Light and Love,

Allison